Speaking Truth and Pleasing People

For Libra, I put out a split-focus divination challenge called the #LampLighterChallenge / #PeoplePleaserChallenge to represent both the Justice aspect of Libra and the Empress aspect of Libra’s ruling planet, Venus. Unlike the Virgo challenge, it’s not a beast to read and follow along with (my own form of “people pleasing”). And unlike the Gemini challenge, it’s actually fairly focused despite having a two-pronged approach to the sign.


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Air signs have double natures. In Libra, this means combining Virgo and Scorpio to be deeply analytical and incredibly charming. But how often can someone actual embody both? How often do people actually like both? Is it just a façade?

My Libra challenge will focus on both the Justice aspect of Libra—speaking truth that stems from objectivity, lots of input, and thoughtfulness—and the Venusian side of Libra—using charm to attract and to nurture relationships (the non-judgy meaning of ”people pleaser”). You may be more drawn to one side of Libra or the other, but here we’ll try to balance the scales.

The prompts are noticeably shorter than the ones for Virgo and even Leo, but I think that you’ll find they still have quite a bit of depth.


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EXERCISE 1: Justice & the Empress

Where are you in relation to the two aspects of Libra: the truth speaker and the people pleaser?

Take out your favorite versions of Justice/Adjustment (Libra) and the Empress (Venus). These will serve as interpretive aides when reading the results. If you’re not using tarot cards, feel free to pick whatever best represents those two aspects of Libra. 

Shuffle and ask the following. Draw once in response to each question.

1. ”What is my relationship to speaking truth?”

2. ”What is my relationship to pleasing others?”

Reflect on where you are and where you would like to be.

EXERCISE 2: Balancing the Scales

Look back at Exercise 1. Reflect on your reading and your reflection that day. Then shuffle and ask the following. Draw once in response to each question.

3. ”What can I do to properly balance the scales?”

4. ”What has prevented me from doing that thus far?”

5. ”What can I do today to start overcoming that obstacle?”


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EXERCISE 3: Self-Assessor

Whether speaking truth or trying to attract and please others (or both), you need to be able to assess the world around you. That begins with a self-assessment.

Shuffle and ask the following. Draw once in response to each question.

6. “What should I know about my ability to recognize the truth?”

7. ”What should I know about my ability to recognize others’ desires?”

EXERCISE 4: Objective Observation

Now turn that assessor’s eye outward. Identify a powerful and clear speaker of truth. Reflect on how those skills are demonstrated, and then select a card to represent this Truth Speaker. It will aid interpretation. (We are assessing skill here, not judging ethics, but the two may be linked.)

Shuffle and ask the following. Draw once in response to each question.

8. ”How can I develop and apply this skill in my own life?”

9. ”What cautionary lesson can I learn from this Truth Speaker?”

EXERCISE 5: Like Attracts Like

We shift now to attracting and pleasing others. Identify someone with a magnetic personality who is provider of what others want. Reflect on how those skills are demonstrated, and then select a card to represent this People Pleaser. It will aid interpretation. (We are attracting potential here, not mirroring values, but the two may be linked.)

Shuffle and ask the following. Draw once in response to each question.

10. ”How can I develop and apply this skill in my own life?”

11. ”What cautionary lesson can I learn from this People Pleaser?”


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EXERCISE 6: Queens for a Day

Among the minor arcana of the tarot, the Queen of Swords can be seen as a minor version of Justice, and the Queen of Pentacles (and/or the 9 of Pentacles) can be seen as a minor version of the Empress. Minors are more ”down to earth” than the majors, and they can seem more accessible as real people or moments in life. Take out your favorite Justice/Adjustment and Empress, and then take out one ”minor” representation of each. Reflect on their similarities.

Shuffle and ask the following. Draw once in response and conduct a sensory cue exercise with it.

12. ”What card will help remind me that true power resides within me?”

Sensory cues are sensations that you experience in your day-to-day life  (sounds, images, textures, emotions, scents) that your intuition (or angels or whatever) can bring to your attention in order to send a message or guide you (like the “hotter / colder” searching game). To help you help your intuition guide you to the things you care most about (in this case it’s the values we’re talking about), you can ask yourself what will help remind you of something or what will help you know you’re on the right track toward something and pull a card/rune/book passage/etc. You then focus on that thing and enter into its world. You “look around” within that world, you “listen” within that world, you “smell” whatever’s in that world, you “touch” that world, you “taste” what’s in that world, and you “feel” (in an emotional way) what’s in that world. Not all senses will be triggered, but the idea is to collect a lot of details from the world of the card/rune/book passage/etc. so that you have concrete touch points for your intuition to draw your attention to in the real world, like breaking glass or the smell of vanilla or whatever. You are not limited to what is depicted on the card. If you see a swan in the card, but when you go into that world you see a goose and it caws like a crow, then you keep the visual cue of the goose and the auditory cue of the crow, ignoring the swan altogether. The next time you notice a goose or a crow’s cawing, you will (hopefully) be reminded of your conscious values or you will be encouraged to know that you’re on the right track to connecting with your higher value. Does that make sense? If not, let me know. I also have a blog post about it if you’re curious.

EXERCISE 7: Peace—Sorrow—Truce

Pull out the three decanic minors of Libra (2–4 of Swords) or your own non-tarot representations of Peace, Sorrow, and Truce (or Peace Restored). Examine each with an extremely critical eye and record your observations, however irrelevant they may seem. Then examine each with an eye to seeing the best in them and record your observations.

Shuffle and ask the following. Draw three cards in response, one for each minor.

13–15. ”What lessons can I take from such ups and downs?”


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EXERCISE 8: House in Order

We look to the stars now and examine how Libra, Venus, Juno, and House VII play out in our natal charts. Examine what, if anything is going on in Libra and House VII, and then see how Venus and the asteroid Juno relate to other aspects of your chart. If you are unsure what it all means, ask a friend (or comment here) before searching a random website. House VII is the house of significant relationships, so it’s important to connect with others this month. Once you have some ideas, shuffle and ask the following. Draw one card in response to each. Compare to Exercises 1 & 3.

16. ”What is my relationship to Libra?”

17. ”What is my relationship to Venus?”

18. ”What is my relationship to Juno?”

19. ”What is my relationship to House VII?”

20. ”So what?”

EXERCISE 9: Vinegar & Honey

Identify an aspect of yourself that you dislike, something that even an objective bystander would agree needs to be cleansed from your life. Select a card to represent this. Then identify an aspect of yourself that you love, something that any objective person with all the facts would just adore about you. Select a card to represent this.

Shuffle and ask the following. Draw as many times as feels appropriate.

21. ”What can I do to remove this unwanted aspect from my life?”

22. ”What can I do to display this part of me more often and authentically?”

23–24. ”How can I balance criticism and love … of myself? And of others?”


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EXERCISE 10: Judge or Journey?

To close out this Libra challenge, we re-assess our relationship to Libra’s two primary aspects. Again, take out your favorite versions of Justice/Adjustment (Libra) and the Empress (Venus). These will be interpretive aides. There’s a full challenge to unpack here, but don’t overthink it. Record what flows naturally, channeled through the Empress. You can always edit it later with the objective distance of Justice.

25. ”Where is my relationship to speaking truth headed now?”

26. ”Where is my relationship to pleasing others headed now?”

27. ”How will I know when it’s time to push ahead on that journey?”